How did a scientist become a doula?

How did a scientist become a doula?

I entered undergraduate studies at the University of Illinois like so many others, with the dream of becoming a veterinarian.  During my years on campus majoring in Animal Science, several experiences pushed me in a different direction.  I took several classes focused on developmental biology and also a number of lab based classes.  The topics and experiments were challenging and exciting to me.  I decided to give research a try.  

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Giving up? Hardly.

Giving up? Hardly.

Today, while checking my social media pages, I came across a conversation between friends.  Some mothers of small children were discussing their comfort (or lack there of) with their bodies, how long it had been since they had worn bikinis, and how they are still wearing maternity pants.  Another friend, who does not yet have children, commented how she could not wait to have kids and give up too.  

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Parenting: A cycle of change

Parenting: A cycle of change

Calm down.

Calm down?

Why is my husband telling ME to calm down??  He has no idea what it's like.

Having this...thing... practically attached to me.  Twenty four hours a day.

HE gets to keep sleeping right now and I am awake.  Again.

He gets to leave the house in the morning.  He gets to go talk to grown-ups.  He gets to worry about more than just a newborn's bathroom habits.  

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Parenting advice you can actually use.

Parenting advice you can actually use.

There is something about being pregnant or having a new baby that seems to serve as an open invitation for parenting advice.  There is no doubt that the most universal parenting advice I hear is to "sleep when the baby sleeps."  This actually IS good advice, since newborns do sleep a lot. You would definitely get a decent amount of (broken) rest if you always chose to sleep when your little one did.  But...  

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Escaping the Holiday Judgment.

Escaping the Holiday Judgment.

Walking into your Holiday gathering you feel excited, anticipatory.  The warm glow of roaring fireplace is calling to you.  A table bedecked with the Holiday china is spread with all of your favorite dishes.  You grab a small plate of appetizers and a cold beverage and begin catching up with your favorite Aunt from across the country.  You exchange the normal pleasantries and then the conversation takes a turn.  She makes a comment that catches you by surprise.  Suddenly you feel criticized.  Judged.  Less than.  Like you are making terrible mistakes with your life.  

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